Giving Wings



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There are times when someone among us utters simple words that capture the very heart of being disciple today. The following reflection by Damaris Kingdom speaks clearly of an alternative way of seeing daily realities. Please read and consider its implications for your life and mission.


When I began my job as the New Zealand National Support Coordinator for the Edmund Rice Network one year ago, I knew very little about Edmund Rice or the schools and Groups that his vision had spawned over these last couple of centuries. All I had was a story about a man in Ireland from 150 years ago – translated to me one evening by a man named Daire Keogh. The story was ordinary to me in some ways. I was raised on mission stories and tales of radical transformations. I knew how the Spirit of God could engage a person to action - especially through periods of great tragedy. Once upon a time, I had made a radical choice towards a life of service, to forsake all worldly wealth and income opportunities to work with other marginalised youth. For me it had happened at 19 but only lasted till I was 25.

Those mission tales had never been able to ring quite sweetly enough for me. And my own story of dedication had turned sour with physical and emotional burn-out. There was something always bothering me.

In the quiet seven years that followed as my husband studied and began his teaching career, I raised our two children through their pre-school years; I constantly racked my brain and theology – ‘What went wrong?’ How could a life so nobly dedicated to the greater cause become such a humiliating failure?

The simplicity of the answer that dawned inside me was so gentle that it couldn’t possible have been the IT that I was looking for. But there it was and indeed it had been from the first time I ever walked out my door to try and ‘change the world’.

“Be real – have no agenda. Love for the sake of love itself.”

The thing that had continuously bothered me was the sense of control that I felt exuded from so many examples of mission. A common arrogance, set to change everyone’s thinking and actions to become uniform and theologically ‘correct.’ Often resulting in cultural bankruptcy and a loss of creativity all round.

And then I heard it. Perhaps it was just fate, the way Daire Keogh presented the mission of Edmund Rice that day. But I heard the words – “service – with no agenda.” I sat up in my seat and heard something that I had been longing to hear my whole life. What I heard, was about a kind of love and service, even a type of evangelisation that did not seek to change minds, but sought to give freedom - Real love for love’s sake.

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In Edmund Rice I see a man that gave people wings. From saving acts of mercy right through to taking the structures away and saying, ‘see? – Now you can do it. All on your own, you need me no longer.’ What a gift education is and what a gift it is to have a job that allows me to help give out wings.


Maybe that’s what I should I call myself instead of ‘National Support Coordinator’. ‘Wing Maker’ - For the People in the Edmund Rice Network of New Zealand. At least, that is what I hope to become.

Damaris Kingdon
ERN National Support Office
Auckland NZ
ernnz@st-peters.school.nz.

Please send your reflections to Peter Harney (
ptrharn@aol.com) {member of the Congregation Renewal Team.}